Why is forgiveness the royal road to healing from woundology?
Forgiveness allows you to let go of the need to blame other people for your stuckness. More than that, by letting go of wounds from the past and instead looking forward to the future, you’re not stuck and there isn’t even any reason to lay blame on anyone.
But what can you do if you feel you are stuck? Certain patterns of behavior have become ingrained in you, and you know very well where they came from. You needed them to cope with the not so supportive environment you grew up in. You know on an intellectual level that you don’t need these defenses any more, but on an emotional level it’s not so easy to change. These are the givens of life, and seeing how these things hold you back, you wish you had different givens. You wish you could go back and start all over again and tweak a few things here and there. Then everything would be different now.
You cannot control the past. You cannot control other people. You cannot tell God how to run the world. What happened, happened.
But your life is not “ruined” because of something that happened in the past. You are beautiful, just the way you are. You have a sacred mission in life, just as you are. You have opportunities to contribute meaningfully to the world just because of who you are. You can love and live and enjoy life despite and even because of your past.
Your reality is where your consciousness is. Stop living in the past and the past will loosen its grip on you. Look towards the future, and you will have a future..